Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Younger, Older, Same?

Here is the question I have been contemplating (among many others): Should age matter? My last boyfriend was 6 years older than me, but we had so much in common that it never seemed to be an issue for me (at one point his age became an issue for him - he got ready to hit the big 4 0 and was a little stressed by it). Before that I had dated some guys that were right around my age and that seemed fine as well. I also dated a couple of guys that were younger than me to varying degrees and sometimes it bothered me and sometimes it didn't. However, now I am in my mid-thirties and have been approached more frequently by younger guys and feel a little wary of it. So I am again seeking your thoughts on it all. Is there an age difference that is NOT acceptable (I understand that a teenager would be gross, but I mean what do you think a cut off should be... how many years younger or older?)? I am ready, open and excited to hear your arguments and preferences for age differences etc. I don't want to be an ageist in this new search for the ONE that is set aside for me... and as I was challenged by an anonymous reader (see the comments in my last post), I want to be sure I am keeping my eyes, heart and mind open so that I don't miss this guy because I am too busy making lists of what I want. Thanks anonymous reader... I love the honesty! :)

4 comments:

  1. Personally I have always been "wise beyond my years," an "old soul," "mature for my age" etc. At times I feel as though in order to find a guy "mature enough to handle me" I would need to date a guy MUCH older than me. As in 10+ years older, which I'm not comfortable with. But on the other hand, I think that sometimes I benefit by having someone a little immature who challenges me to be more playful & immature at times. SO to answer your question, I think age is only a number and not always reflective of an individual's heart and life experiences. But its also important to be comfortable with the person you're with (and their age).

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  2. As you get older, the age difference fades. 2 of my closest girlfriends are 28. They are no less mature than I am. Look at Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore! I'ts not the age that matters-it's the connection. Albeit if you marry a really old guy-you could end up being a very rich 40 year old!:)-

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  3. Does not matter, as long as he is young enough to have/want kids! It is the life goals that matter/morals/same beliefs IMO. Anyone who gives you a hard time about being a cougar is just jealous.
    Oh wait...you didn't say you are going for a hot, younger guy? My bad! ;)

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  4. Um... as for wanting kids... EW! I don't want children... never have. And there is a young hottie who I am supposed to meet this weekend... watch out for the updates.

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