Okay... I think people have the wrong idea of what I want in a man. Yes, I made a man combo... aka the fantasy man. But seriously, could no one see that it was a lot tongue in cheek?! I love all the good things about the men of my past and I even loved some of the faults that they had. So I think that when I am searching for the next man in my life, I am not looking for Prince Charming. I am not so niave to think that that person exists, I know he doesn't. My only uncompromising things are that he is a Christian, that he is kind and that he makes me laugh. After that, all the rest is bonus. With my last boyfriend who turned out to be Mr. Wrong, I told him that I loved all of him: the man he was, the man he wasn't and the man he was striving to be. I accepted his faults as part of who he was and I took my faults to heart and worked hard to be a better person for him. I was hurt and humiliated by him but I often forgave him and moved forward with him, knowing that he wasn't perfect, but at the time I believe he was my Mr. Right. I was wrong and am still healing from that (so please forgive me for having a bit of a wall up still, I need to guard and protect my heart better than I do).
As for settling for Mr. Good Enough, I just can't. I mean, sure, I could... there is a Mr. Good Enough chasing me in my life right now, but he doesn't make me laugh, I feel no passion for him and mostly he just annoys me... so is that what I should take? Is that good enough for a life time?! I just don't know.
So forgive me readers and friends, but I am going to wait around for good enough, I am going to find Mr. Right (with all his faults, failings and successes).
"The Perfect Relationship"
5 years ago