Saturday, January 7, 2012

Ah... the young...

I know, I know, I am young but not THAT young!! I was out last night with my friends (one was leaving the country and it was her last big hurray... miss you already, G) and we were dancing, laughing and generally having a good time. I was sticking to my resolution to recognize my value and worth by acting like it. Anyway, it was a great night... but one little bit stuck out to me and I thought I'd share it with my readers:

We were dancing the night away and some men that we had met out once before joined in our fun, dancing and laughing and being a little bit flirty. One of them was an adorable young guy with a thousand watt smile. He was about as flirtatious with my friends as he was adorable and at one point one of my friends kind of bounced away from him all smiles (she is so much more adorable that he is so that tells you a LOT). Anyway, he kind of looked after her and I sauntered over and the conversation went a little like this:

Me: Go get her.

Him: Nah...

Me: Ah... you're used to the ladies coming after you right (he nods). Well, you're young so let me tell you how this works out best... you gotta go after the quality girls.

Him: (laughs) yea, I guess. But I'm not THAT young, I'm 25! How old are you?

Me: Oh sweetie... you ARE that young (laughing)... I'm 36.

Him: GET OUTTA HERE!! Wow, you look like you're a lot younger!

I'm still giggling about that. I love (and I was like this at that age) how when we are in our early to mid 20s we think we are so mature, wise and all-knowing. And now in my mid 30s I'm realizing how little I know and how I wish I had listened to advice doled out to me in those earlier years. Sure, it was a great compliment from a cute younger guy for him to think I was younger... but what struck me is the sense he had about knowing how to "play the game." Perhaps that's the problem in dating these days. It's all a game somehow! :) But then again, I have not the wisdom of my 20s, just the uncertainty of my 30s.

P.S. my young friend who bounced away from cutie pie has the wisdom of her 20s and she is so much more aware of her value and worth... It makes me happy and I'm thrilled to watch and learn from her!

1 comment:

  1. You are absolutely right! Dating has become a game & this girl just isn't willing to "play." So glad you shared your wisdom with him. Maybe someday he'll learn to appreciate & follow it!