I am so sick of being so gullible and trusting. Why is it that I fall for everything? Last week I went on a date and it was one of the best first dates I'd been on. It was just a simple dinner, but the company was so enjoyable to look at and to talk too. He made me feel beautiful and comfortable and myself right from the get go. We met online at eHarmony and had gone through all the answering of questions etc and I felt like I was really getting to know him. When he finally asked for the date, I was really excited as I was almost positive that he'd forgotten about me at that point (we hadn't chatted or emailed in about 2 weeks). And as I said, the date went well and there was lots of talk about a second date (from him). I was elated when he wanted to set a date early in the week. The second date was meant to take place up in W-burg but he ended up canceling because he was invited to the Obama rally at Old Dominion University. What an awesome opportunity for him and I can't compete with seeing the president speak (I know because I've seen him speak live and the man is amazing!). So then a new second date was set for the next day and I got stood up (a first for me) but I accepted his apology and left the rescheduling of the date in his hands. He promised to make it up to me, to plan a wonderful and romantic date. So when he texted me on Friday for a date, I was pretty happy. Unfortunately I had already made plans with friends to go to the movies. I told him that he could come with us and then he and I could do something separate afterwards... or if since it was hard to book a date, I postponed my stuff with my friends and met with him instead. I heard nothing back... NOTHING. I feel so stupid, like I am too forgiving, too trusting, too stupid. Am I gullible? Am I stupid? Am I too trusting? I don't want to have a hard heart or give up, but how much am I suposed to take? *sigh* I need my wonderful friends to be in my back pocket and brain while I walk through this process of finding Mr. Right. I don't want Mr. Right-Now anymore... I want Mr. Right but it's so hard for me to figure out the intentions of a guy.
"The Perfect Relationship"
12 years ago
You can't figure out the intentions of a guy because they THEMSELVES don't know! I mean, men are clueless. Not to male bash or anything but...geez.
ReplyDeleteAnd to answer your questions: NO NO and NO! You are not too trusting or stupid (give me a break I am gonna smack you for that one) or gullible (how can any world traveler be gullible?).
I'm so so sorry this guy did that to you!!! :(
April... thanks! I needed to hear it from someone who really and truly knows me. I did give him another chance and the date finally happened.... stay tuned!
ReplyDeleteYou are not gullible, too smart for gullible - you just believe in people. Admirable quality and I wish I was more like you :)
ReplyDeleteAs you know, I'm always blatantly honest...date 2? Really? He stood you up - no cancel call....that's such a rude thing to do...and when he's JUST meeting you?? Come on....if he'll do something like that now, what's he capable of doing later on????....
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Oakley... I love your brutal honesty. I kind of count on it!! And yes, I thought long and hard about him giving him that chance, but I decided it would be a three strikes rule. But those two strikes remain... he knows he has a lot to prove to me.
ReplyDeleteNot gullible but cancelling plans to see a guy isn't usually a good thing, you're not a doormat to be walked all over! It's okay to already have plans, if he wanted to come along or do something after that's fine but don't cancel plans already made, it looks desperate! Plus, if you said it was okay to see Obama, that's not a strike against him even if he promised to make it up to you. You okay'd it so that's that. Not calling you back was a bit rude of him, I hope he had a good reason.
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