Well, as I was laying in bed the other night, my brain started spinning and wondering about things. No, not my typical pity party of why I am single (I'm kinda done with that aspect of life... not worried about being single or not single). No, I started thinking about past relationships and some of the red flags that I couldn't see in the moment but in my heart, I knew they were red flags.
Then I got to thinking about this blog and how powerful it is to write it and know that people are reading it. I got to thinking that perhaps my writing about my relationship red flags might help to open another woman's eyes instead of her being stuck somewhere she doesn't belong and hurting deeper than she needs to. Yup, that's right... you read correctly... I'm saving men and women around the world from relationship sadness. Ha! Just kidding, but I do love to share and hope that it impacts another in a positive way.
So I thought I would write a series of entries about some of the relationship red flags that I see now. Hopefully I will write one entry per red flag, but I can't make promises. ;)
Here is a list of what I'm hoping to cover in the coming weeks:
1. If he doesn't tell you he has kids, or tell his kids about you... That's a red flag.
2. If he has a habit of man-caving for weeks at a time... That's a red flag.
3. If he has different birthdays on every online profile... That's a red flag. (yes, readers... I've dated some shady, shady fellas)
4. If he can't have a conversation on the phone in the same room as you... That's a red flag.
5. If he is only happy with the outfits he picks out for you... That's a red flag.
6. If he makes you doubt ANY of your qualities... That's a red flag.
7. If he's constantly unsure of defining your relationship (even 2 years down the road)... That's a red flag.
8. If he attempts to control how you deal with your emotions in any way... That's a red flag.
9. If he asks you to marry him but then explains how it's not a real proposal yet... um... That's a RED flag.
10. If strangers see sadness in your eyes when you are meant to be in love... That's a red flag.
Now, if some of these seem familiar to you, I'm sorry for you. These are things that have happened to me over the course of the past 10 years of failed relationships. I'm not bitter about them, I'm not sad about them, they just are what they are and it's time to share them... hopefully it helps someone and it will help me to release them from my brain.
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